There is a perennial in a pot near my garage that comes back year after year, surprisingly. It’s merely protected by a small pine tree in the pot and probably exposed to everything—the downpours pounding off the roof of the garage, the pine needles piling up around it, shredded from the neighbor’s tree, big clumps of snow heaped onto it after a snowstorm. That poor little flower suffers the vicissitudes of nature and yet comes back again and again to greet us with her joyful color and smile.


Eshi Otawara’s newest dress brings that dianthus to mind, least of all because she has stamped a flower resembling the dianthus all over this ensemble. (Eshi is her own kind of dianthus—always greeting me with her beautiful smile.) One thing about Eshi’s body of work in SL—it’s consistent. It makes sense from piece to piece. There is a clear sensibility and voice to it. Eshi knows how to weigh the elements and make them into cohesive, coherent pieces that fit into a larger body of work. It’s a rare gift that we have an artist use SL’s medium with such dexterity and strength of vision. I can only think of Scope Cleaver matching Eshi’s skill with SL.


There is something almost Victorian about this ensemble with its ornate hip pieces, skirts and broad bustle and trailing train. Maybe it’s the satiny textures or the lace or the almost rococo fans bookending the hips. Surely the beautiful crenellated shells on the hips emphasize the ornate theme of the ensemble. Probably it’s that beautiful blossom of a hat, perched on the head and pinned through with one of Eshi’s characteristic oversized head skewer pins that brings a Victorian flower to mind.


What makes the ensemble even more cleverly designed is its versatility. She includes a pants suit with a simple hip wrap and the more ornate hip pieces you see above. She includes the absolutely adorable purse as well and the elegant gloves. She also gives you a short skirt that can be stripped down to this ensemble. When Eshi makes something, she works on it until it’s complete, adding and removing pieces until it’s right. It reminds me of a quote I once heard about how to know when a poem is finished.. when you’re adding and removing the same comma over and over.


I can only grace Eshi’s work with a most delicate skin. This skin, by Brendon Papp, is gently colored, not bent on outshining this brilliant work but quietly and beautifully supporting it. I have been looking at these skins for the past day and am enrapt with their coloring and delicateness.


A profusion of pink roses bending ragged in the rain speaks to me of all gentleness and its enduring.  ~ William Carlos Williams

Hair: Kin-Cricket-[Black] by Kin Keiko for Kin

Skin: !Imabee: Stigma – Umeko – Rainforest / DKbrow by Brendon Papp for Imabee

Ensemble: Aria Pompadour (Rouge) by Eshi Otawara for Eshi Otawara *

Shoes: Maitreya Verve Pumps – Red by Onyx LeShelle for Maitreya


Underlying a lot of discussion about SL is the issue of identity and representation. People come to SL to represent themselves, to represent some part of themselves, to represent some creative expression, to… well… represent.


Many images of women in SL are based on heterosexualized imaginings we have about women—perfect bodies, perfect hair, perfect wardrobe. It could be argued that this is a result of the prevalence of the “male gaze.” But I think there is a resistance to that across SL—you find furries and short people and even butch women.

Beebo Brink has decided to create a woman shape that is much adored—by other women. Her “Boi in a Box” kits, which include shape, skin and styling notes, have been much embraced by the lesbian community in SL and by those who are looking for a look that represents them. I got her Tom Grrl kit and jettisoned the skin enclosed for a Tuli Asturias skin (though Beebo’s was nice). I topped it with messy boy cut and outfitted myself with some great vintage pieces from Floatie Hock and chucks from Coke Dreadlow.


Beebo’s woman is winsome and approachable while not being “typical.” She makes the avatar shorter, makes her eyebrows and eyes open and inviting, makes her smile inviting—for conversation, friendship, and human connection. This tomboy could be your friend or your sister. And she is.


Whatever precautions you take so the photograph will look like this or that, there comes a moment when the photograph surprises you. It is the other’s gaze that wins out and decides. ~ Jacques Derrida

Hair: *~*Damselfly*~*Adin – Oynx by Shylah Honey for Damselfly

Skin: []::Tuli::[] Hope  (fair/br) natural by Tuli Asturias for Tuli *

Shape and Bald Head: Tom Grrl (6′) by Beebo Brink for Brazen Women Shapes and Skins

Shirt: HB – Gilbert – Racing – Charcoal by Floatie Hock for Hell Bop

Pants: HB – Danica – Dickies Jeans by Floatie Hock for Hell Bop

Bracelet: Gritty Kitty: Snake Charmer Psychadelic Scales by Noam Sprocket for Gritty Kitty

Shoes: UBU PornStar Lo-Tops by Coke Dreadlow for Urban Bomb Unit *

Warrior Woman

I like to feel my power in SL. I am not talking about social power or financial power or physical power—I am talking about my feminine power. It goes beyond sexuality to something deeper—the power of knowledge, acceptance and peace.

Warrior Woman

Teklili Tantalus has a good vision of power and complexity as represented by his otherworldly work. If you take a good look, you will see each prim is positioned perfectly, each texture considered carefully. The fit of the pieces on my avatar was damn near perfect (once I sized it up a tinch), which means Tek is building on the avatar rather than on a mannequin—no small task doing that. His work is a testiment to expertise and skill.

Warrior Woman

What is also terrific is that the pieces come scripted with metal-changing and gem-changing features. A whole palette of colors and color intensities can be chosen and typed in on command to change your piece from silver to black to purple to orange and mix them up.

Warrior Woman

Tricky Boucher’s Alyson skin, while seeming somewhat girlish on first view because of its freckles and very fresh skin and lips, still lends power to this look with the darkly shaded eyes and powerfully drawn body.

I also show Jesseaitui Petion’s tattoos here. He has been a leader in tattoo-making in SL for quite a while and with reason. He understands that not everyone wants a full body tat nor do they want a black and white photo. Sometimes it’s about replicating what will be meaningful and look good on a body. I wear three tats layered here—a celtic moon on the back shoulder blade (I *love* shoulder blade tats), a little Taurus symbol on my belly and tribal-style tats on my arms. You won’t often see me in tats but if you do, they will likely be his.

Finally this incredibly wonderful short hair from Komari Mai made as a set for the Crazy Arse Hair Hunt that is still going on. It comes with two other hairs that are more “crazy” than this one. This hair is short, fierce and excellently textured. Were it available in other colors I would gladly buy the fat pack. I am guessing it looks great on men too. Go FIND this hair before the hunt ends.

Warrior Woman

Girl power:

Hair: *BC322 Crazy Hair Hunt Seiren by Komari Mai for *BC322 Skull&Bones* Hair

Skin: -Belleza- Alyson PALE 8 by Tricky Boucher for Belleza *

Bra: Pohjola – Bikini Top (spine attach) by Tekelili Tantalus for Tekeli-li!

Bottom: Pohjola – Bikini Bottom by Tekelili Tantalus for Tekeli-li!

Jewelry: “Melange” by Tekeli-li – Full Set by Tekelili Tantalus for Tekeli-li!

Tattoos: AITUI TATTOO – Celtic Moon I (back), AITUI TATTOO – Zodiac – ASF Taurus II (belly), and AITUI TATTOO – Fire Fish Sleeves ::airbrushed:: /fresh/ III (arms) by Jesseaitui Petion for Aitui

Boots: BAX Prestige Boots Silver by Bax Coen for Bax Boots *

RFL for My Sisters

Throughout the week I have show fashions that are being given as items by designers around the grid to benefit RFL. The beauty of the Fair is its international flavor—9 sims, 8 cities from around the world. It’s also amazing the worldwide reach of the designers contributing to this cause, from the US to Australia, Japan to Brazil. Cancer knows no borders; it finds its way around the world.

RFL for My Sisters

One of my best and most unexpected finds was this amazing outfit by Syngen Sohmers. Her contribution of this outfit, which does include the kind of modest head covering that may be chosen by some Muslim women, reminds us that there are many who are affected by cancer. It also reminds us that the American Cancer Society finances funding and research around the world. For example, this research helps my sisters around the world to learn about proper breast cancer and cervical cancer screening. It reaches past the barriers of cultural differences to that fundamental humanness of our lives. Syngen’s fidelity to the colors and styling of such an outfit is amazing. I was delighted to get it.

RFL for My Sisters

I show her outfit with one of Tuli Asturias’ new Eva skins, this time in Tone 7. Her new set of skins are lovely and *finally* released for everyone to enjoy. I think we have missed having Tuli on the grid—welcome back.

RFL for My Sisters

Dedicated to my sisters–SH, AD, CG, LG—who are survivors:

Skin: []::Tuli::[] Eva (tone 7/bl) 10a by Tuli Asturias for Tuli *

Outfit: –Sakinah—Inaya by Syngen Sohmers for Sakinah available on the New Delhi sim at the RFL Clothing Fair

Shoes: (Shiny Things) Saturday Flats – black by Fallingwater Cellardoor for Shiny Things

P.S. Please get over there and shop.. today is the last day and they are soooo close to their goal of 4.5 million Linden.

Lick My Boots*

The post is all about the boots. That is really what I am going for here. Check it out.


First let me tell you about this cute outfit. Another offering from Aurora Vuissent, my latest low Linden find, this outfit has great highwaisted tweed pants with a cute halter top. Keep ‘em coming, Aurora. I’ll be back!


OK, the boots. Now, before you go clickclickclicking on that slurl, I have to tell you up front that the boots are located in a shop that would not be to everyone’s liking. If you are at all offended by sexual content on SL, then do not go to the shop. My intent is not to bring you into my secret fantasy life (of which there is none) or expose you to potentially offensive materials, of which there are plenty in the shop. However, if you can shield your eyes, hold your breath, and step past the uh.. other accoutrements, the boots are right inside the door on a vendor and you can get in and out in a minute.

That being said, Yhis Khorana provides boots with a multiplicity of charms. First of all, there is the beautiful shape to the boot, the great building, the terrific textures, AND a menu that allows you to custom color parts of the boot as you wish. I clicked around and was able to make my boots wholly black with red trim and black laces but you can combine sections of the boot (the toe, the heel, the shank) in different colors as well as the metal and laces. You can also do other things with these boots related to the above-mentioned uses (am I the Queen of Euphemism or what?) but really, who needs that? Yhis states in the explanation notecard that additional textues will be offered later. I encourage Yhis to get the boots out of ponyland and into the rest of SL—s/he’ll make a killing!


Finally I top it off with a very nice domme sort of hair from Morgan Kincess. I would encourage you to clickclickclick through on that slurl. Last time I was at Digital Eyes, Morgan had an amazing art gallery with a great exhibit of RL photographs from another artist and a perfect build for the show.


*Azia made me do it!

Hair: Digital Eyes * Fayandria Ponytail Black by Morgan Kincess for Digital Eyes

Skin: []::Tuli::[] Bella (fair/br) F.Y.L.O. red by Tuli Asturias for Tuli *

Outfit: VUI. High Waist Pants (black) by Aurora Vuissent for Vui

Boots: MB – MMMBoots! by Yhis Khorana for Maison Broceliande

Pure Class

You know, class isn’t about looks or size or money. It’s about attitude. It’s about how you project yourself to others. It’s about how you feel about yourself.

Pure Class

That’s why I was glad to do this particular blog using a new shape made by Xme Xue. In a world of beautiful avatars, it’s great to have one that is beautiful in a less conventional way. Wearing it, I feel like a complete woman—curvy hips, full breasts, and plump features. The shape is proportional—we don’t see a tiny waist with ridiculously huge breasts and hips. We see how a woman looks when she is plus sized.

Pure Class

I am wearing a great outfit from Sysy Chapman. Understated yet fashionable, the outfit does come with a belt that disappeared into this shape, but who cares? It also comes with a turtleneck which I further dressed up with a great scarf from Onyx LeShelle and earrings and bangles from Fallingwater Cellardoor. Shoes were a great buy from Siddean Munro.

Finally, let’s talk about skin on shape. I hear people talk all the time about how they have to tweak their shape to fit a skin. Something seems wrong with that to me. The shape should be good enough to fall within the norm of most skins. The skins should be good enough to fall within the norm of many shapes. I have seen skins with lips that are too large and overlap my lips (which are pretty full already). Or they were tested on a sour puss face, so they don’t conform to a smiling face. Tuli Asturias’ Bella skins seem to fit over every single shape I try them on. I never seem to find a fit problem. And Xme Xue’s shape is so luscious.. well it’s a perfect fit here.

Pure Class

A touch of class:

Hair: Cake – Dakota – Burgundy Hair by Stumbelina Ophelia for Cake

Skin: []::Tuli::[] Bella (fair/br) F.Y.L.O. red by Tuli Asturias for Tuli *

Shape: Maggie by Xme Xue for Ample Avi

Top: SYSY’s Tweedy the tops by Sysy Chapman for Sysy’s *

Pants: SYSY’s Iloa pants black by Sysy Chapman for Sysy’s *

Scarf: Maitreya Voluminous Scarf * Dark Cobalt (Spine) by Onyx LeShelle for Maitreya

Bracelet: (Shiny Things) Ruma bangles – silver by Fallingwater Cellardoor for Shiny Things

Earrings: (Shiny Things) Pyra earrings – silver by Fallingwater Cellardoor for Shiny Things

Shoes: SLink Winkles Heeled L Black by Siddean Munro for SLink

For the War Effort

World War II (which took place in the 40s, despite our featured designer’s mixed-up history) was a watershed for American women (and probably women all over the world to different degrees). Women found new freedoms, new responsibilities, new identities while the economy worked hard for the war effort and people were displaced by circumstances and needs.

Now I could go into this long lecture about the change in women’s lives because of World War II, changes that took, particularly regarding their sexuality and sexual freedoms. However, I am just gonna say, it didn’t START in the 40s, but something sure happened then.

For the War Effort

I show this cute pin-up outfit from Tatiana Starsider. Strangely, I found it at the Menswear Fair.  For a mere 100L, I got it all—the hair, the hat, the shoes. It’s a terrific little set for what it is, especially the hair.

For the War Effort

I pair it with this pretty skin from Tuli Asturias that I have shown before. A freckled girl doesn’t look so bad giving the boys (and maybe some girls out there) a little peek and some pleasant fantasies.

For the War Effort

Outfit (includes hat with hair and shoes): 1950s Series – Pinup Girl “army bombshell” by Tatiana Starsider for Starchild Designs

Skin: []::Tuli::[] Bella (fair/br) F.Y.L.O. red by Tuli Asturias for Tuli Asturias  for Tuli *

Nails: Candy nail #P000 Basic Prim nails : Red nails by peche Bury for Candy Nail