Seeking Well-Being

A Day at the Spa

To keep the body in good health is a duty, otherwise we shall not be able to keep our mind strong and clear. ~ Buddha

A Day at the Spa

I have come to realize that well-being mentally means I need to find well-being physically too. Therefore, I am on a new health kick in my RL, interested in pursuing my physical and mental well-being so I can share that with my family and friends. Froukje Hoorenbeek has made this part of my SL too with her yoga mat, which includes separate yoga sequences for beginner and advanced with an additional longer session. Add to the mat 11 relaxing and stretching animations and 35 yoga poses, and you have the makings of a mentally relaxing workout in SL that might precede or follow your own RL workout. At 2 prims, the yoga mat is simple to keep in your space, even a Linden home, and since it is copy, you can rez several and work out with friends. (I can see this becoming the new craze—instead of syncing to dance with friends, you could do synchronized yoga.)

A Day at the Spa

After a good session of yoga, a massage is in order to bring everything whole. Froukje has made this terrific massage bed, based on a design from the 40s, for expert massages. The message table can render in four colors: brown, black, off white and green. The massage table has 46 massage animations, 20 cuddle animations and if you purchase the adult version, 20 foreplay animations and 30 sex animations for couples. It has five sequences of animations that just allow a series of massage movements to play through for a complete massage as well. When you lie on the table, a towel automatically renders to cover you (as you see) and if you are getting the hot stone treatment, stones render. At 9 prims this is hardly an indulgence for your prim count but an incredible indulgence for your well-being.

A Day at the Spa

Water, water and more water. The importance of drinking water is touted left and right and why not? Over 50% of our body is made of water. Sitting down after a long session of yoga and then a relaxing massage with some fresh water feeds the body and soul. If you spend a lot of time on SL, I challenge you to keep a glass of water by your computer as I do now. Forget the sodas, the juices, even the diet drinks. Drink water and learn how to click “Do Not Disturb” so you can get up for bathroom breaks. It will do you good!

A Day at the Spa

Healing yourself is connected with healing others. ~ Yoko Ono

Hair: smitten nutmeg by Queue Marlowe for Analog Dog *

Skin: AE Skins – Patrice T3 Bare by Sachi Vixen for Adam n Eve *

Eyes: IKON Lucid Eyes – Denim (ML) by Ikon Innovia for IKON *

Top: *blowpop* Three Goddesses Print Tank (Long) by Annyka Bekkers for Blowpop

Pants: [SC] Surf Couture – Yoga Pants Leg – Light Gray by Emma Gilmour for Surf Couture

Feet: [Gos] Barefoot – Flat by Gospel Voom for Gos Boutique*

Massage Table: Dutchie massage table adult by Froukje Hoorenbeek of Dutchie *

Yoga mat: Dutchie mesh sequenced yoga mats by Froukje Hoorenbeek of Dutchie *

Thanks to Grayson for being the masseur model.



I had a girl
Donna was her name
Since she left me
I’ve never been the same
‘Cause I love my girl
Donna, where can you be
Where can you be

~ “Donna” by Richie Valens


What exactly is the appeal of the American 50s? People look back on it so fondly, when the suburbs grew after the influx of servicemen (and women) after World War II and a time of incredible economic growth. It was also a time when women returned home and minorities went back their second-class status. Then the ‘60s came upon everyone, a result of the pressure cooker “normalcy” of the ‘50s.

Barnesworth Anubis loves the 50s. I think it’s the bright colors, the simple modernist shapes, the dream of a bright future. And in a place like SL, where we still are breaking some ground as far as our future existence, why wouldn’t that be appealing? Barnesworth is offering this darling furniture set at this month’s Collabor88 (only a few days left—get over there) complete with adult and PG versions of the sofa. Barnes spends a lot of time researching everything he makes, and it shows! Grab some retro goodness before it’s gone.


One other retro spot you need to put on your agenda tout suite is the Bay City Fashion Week, organized and built by my favorite child in SL, Marianne McCann. Marianne with Ever Dreamscape and Ahnyanka Delphin have assembled some of the best retro fashion creators in SL, from Purple Moon to Schadenfreude to Sonatta Morales. This is a rare opportunity to see such a diversity of great designers in one place and it ends April 29 (that would be today), so go NOW!

This dress from Nil McCallen is one of the treasures I found at the Bay City Fashion Week, a combination of charming and sexy. With a retro print and a great construction, this dress is perfect for the Donna in your life. Speaking of which, I did a review of 50s songs to use for this blog, and my goodness, there was a lot of lasciviousness under the surface of the songs of that more “genteel” era, so the off-shoulder fashion of this dress makes more sense. (Think twice about why Richie Valens is still looking for Donna–it’s not for her great chocolate chip cookies.)


Hart Larsson’s beautiful Sophia skin is a perfect choice for this look with its minimal eye makeup and blooming lips. I can’t help but think his eyebrows have a more classical look as was show in 50s stars. Pretty pearl jewelry from Random Calliope adds a perfect touch. And a visit to Alair Cortes’ salon, where spot-on retro looks abound, makes the look absolutely complete.


Oh, Donna, Oh, Donna
Oh, Donna, Oh, Donna

Hair: **Pocket Mirrors** Scarlet Semi-Updo Strawberry by Alair Cortes for Pocket Mirrors

Skin: [PXL] Sophia SK Cyclamen Lips MEB C2 with [PXL] Sophia SK Light Eyebrows (tattoo layer) by Hart Larsson for [PXL] *

Eyes: IKON Lucid Eyes – Blue-Gray (ML) by Ikon Innovia for IKON *

Dress: Vintage Dress APRIL by Nil McCallen for FIN, available at the Bay City Fashion Week (ends TODAY—go now!)

Jewelry: Necklace – Mama Harper – White – Unltd with Earring – Pearl Stud (L) – White – Unltd by Random Calliope (no longer available) *

Shoes: Maubray // Marijen Wedge by Meg Nowles for Maubray *

Furniture: [ba] retro living room ADULT – blue by Barnesworth Anubis for barnesworth anubis, available at Collabor88 *

Poses by Luth Brodie for Reel Expression (no longer available)

In My Closet

In My Closet

“In every housewife’s closet there’s an article of clothing that tells you more about its owner than she would want you to know. It might be a shirt that she despises, but wears without complaint. Perhaps, it’s some lingerie, she knows isn’t hers, but refuses to discuss. Or a dress she once loved, that she can no longer bear to look at. Yes, you can learn a lot about women from what they choose to wear. You can learn even more by what they choose to take off, and who they take it off for.” – Mary Alice from “Desperate Housewives”

In My Closet

What’s in the back of your closet that you’re keeping a secret? For a long time it was a pair of black boots from graduate school that reminded me of walking the sidewalks at of the University. Buried deep in there too is a sari from a friend. There is also a pair of baby slippers and a onesie, tucked away to remember how small my son was when he was an infant and a satin shawl I made and wore only once—on my wedding day. And in my underwear drawer, a sexy purple demi-bra and panties I bought once to seduce a boyfriend.

Maybe you have such a set in your drawer, something lacy and entirely impractical, designed for wearing for only a couple minutes before it’s off and you’re off to your next adventure. This set, from Elysage, is a dream created in Paris by a young French designer. She is just starting out and I expect more from her but I couldn’t help but blog the set she sent after I had taken a few photos for her. The look is minimal, sexy sensuous. I look forward to more.

In My Closet

What makes the lingerie look even more fabulous, of course, is this skin from Ava Grau. Ava stunned the Skin Fair attendees with her set of Anais skins, all so lushly drawn and tinted so that women of color could be absolutely beautiful (and not too brown or orange or red). A short hair from Carina Larsen makes this look stunning, especially with Ikon Innovia’s gorgeous eyes.

In My Closet

“Brevity is the soul of lingerie.” ~ Dorothy Parker

Hair: Amacci Hair Linda ~ Onyx by Carina Larsen for Amacci *

Skin: *Glance Skins – Anais – October – Black Brows with *Glance Skins – Anais – October – Eyeshadow 01and *Glance Skins – Anais – October – Glossy 02 by Ava Grau for Glance Skins*

Eyes: IKON Lucid Eyes – Exposure (ML) by Ikon Innovia for IKON *

Eyelashes: [LeLutka]-2011 lashes/long by Thora Charron for [LeLutka]

Lingerie: Lingerie Dragon Royal Blue – Bra – Elysa From Paris and Lingerie Dragon Royal Blue – Tanga – Elysa From Paris by Elysage for Elysa from Paris *

Nails: [PM]Pixel Mode – Diamond Edt. Mesh Nails : Long by Tya Fallingbridge for Pixel Mode *

Poses by Tutys for Tutys



“She refused to be bored chiefly because she wasn’t boring.” ~ Zelda Fitzgerald

Instead of taking my own photos, I asked a friend of mine, Wheelerwood Oppewall, to take the photos. Wheeler likes to “dabble” with photography in SL, making some lovely photos on location in SL. His style makes the model integral with the surrounding landscape, providing a dramatic narrative for the viewer. We have enjoyed working together and will be doing several other photos through the weeks. I hope you enjoy them and find new venues for your own exploration.

He and I got together to do a series of photos for my blog for fun. This first set was inspired by Zelda Fitzgerald. I chose a dress from Sonatta Morales. I can’t speak highly enough of Sonatta’s work, which fills a void for high end fashionistas in retro dressing and costuming. Sonatta researches and represents her garments through meticulous textures and construction. I am always struck by how well Sonatta employs the pieces of SL to create historically accurate garments. She also uses elaborate patterns redolent of the times from which they were taken. I wish more creators used actual patterns (and not just solid color fabrics) in their work.


“I don’t want to live. I want to love first, and live incidentally.” ~ Zelda Fitzgerald

Hair: **Pocket Mirrors** Gina Short Fringe Black by Alair Cortes for Pocket Mirrors

Skin: -Belleza- Mya Med 5 by Tricky Boucher for-Belleza- *

Eyes: IKON Ardent Eyes – Black (ML) by Ikon Innovia for IKON *

Dress: Sonatta Morales *8* Ming by Sonatta Morales for Sonatta Morales

Earrings: MG – Earrings – Singapore Swing – Triple Ebony by Maxi Gossamer for Maxi Gossamer *

Shoes: [Gos] Mae Platform – Naturelle Collection by Gospel Voom for Gos Boutique*

Photos taken by Wheelerwood Oppewall. See his Koinup here. See his Flickr here. See his work at Artists in SL. Check out his website here. Friend him on Facebook here.

Taken at the Rose Theater

Taken using the Lumipro by Stefan Buscaylet

Kirk’s Women

Kirk's Women

“Worlds may change, galaxies disintegrate, but a woman always remains a woman.” ~ Kirk, “The Conscience of the King”, stardate 2818.9

Kirk's Women

Remember the original Star Trek? The one with the polyester uniforms and the captain with the almost-pompadour and the stick thin guy with the wicked ears? It seemed like every other week they were on some planet with female aliens out to seduce them or wreck them or capture them. They were all babes, be they green or glittering or glowing. Many argue it was sexism, but one could say that Kirk was just employing his manly wiles to get his crew through some tough situations. The tension was sometimes enough to move a 20 million meteorite into hyperspace.

I have elected to dress myself as Harperina, from the planet uh.. Zeeboid. And Kirk has invaded my planet, seeking fashion advice for his crew. First I would lead him to this stylish new dress from SamanthaBJones, a mesh mini with an Asian touch in the mandarin collar and raw silk texture. Then I would show him how Tawny Mirror’s amazing mesh thigh-high boots (with color change HUD, though I stuck with black) with their gravity soles keep me from floating off into the ether.

Kirk's Women

On Zeeboid, the women’s hair all has this curious tint, colors running into others as an ombre pattern. Of course, Queue Marlowe has put her finger on it with this gorgeous hair she has donated for Fantasy Faire. With artful and otherworldly curls, the style is perfect for an alien seductress. My skin, one of Tricky Boucher’s best bargains with its full luscious lips and deeply lined eyes, makes this look arresting, as the women in the shows were. Ikon Innovia’s Kaleido eyes hint at a potentially cyborg soul. And Tiffy Vella’s new mesh jewelry—her first—decorates me extraterrestrially with a royal flavor.

Kirk's Women

“Oh, that sound of male ego. You travel halfway across the galaxy and it’s still the same song.” ~ Eve McHuron, “Mudd’s Women”, stardate 1330.1

Hair: Scene motive by Queue Marlowe for Analog Dog, available at Fantasy Faire *

Skin: -Belleza- Mya Med BBB 2 with -Belleza- Mya Med Lips 1 by Tricky Boucher for-Belleza- *

Eyes: IKON Kaleido Eyes – Ancient (ML) by Ikon Innovia for IKON *

Dress: [LIV Glam] Boutique-Spring 2013-Rose – Asian Dress by SamanthaSJones for LIV-Glam *

Jewelry: Eclectica ‘Solaria’ Necklace in Fuscia&Gold and Eclectica ‘Solaria’ ring in Fuscia&Gold-right by Tiffy Vella for Eclectica *

Nails: [PM]Pixel Mode – Diamond Edt. Mesh Nails : Regular by Tya Fallingbridge for Pixel Mode *

Boots: [DD] High Elegance by Tawny Mirror and Gina Lurra for Domina’s Duo *

Poses by Tutys for Tutys

Black Nails

Black Roses

I always believed that I have something important to say and I said it. ~ Lou ReedBlack Roses

I recently attended a party (I do those in RL too) and I had my nails painted black for the occasion (as I do here on Siddean Munro’s mesh hands). I was personally worried I would come off looking too goth or wild but I looked around and everyone had crazy-colored nails: blue, gold, black, white. Instead of looking like Lou Reed, as I feared, I looked like your average suburban lady.

I also have a dress like this one—black with big white roses. Barbra Kungler has made this one, employing again the Kunglers’ amazing sense of proportion with patterns and silhouettes. There is something so marvelous about their fashions because they USE pattern and colors so well. I can almost feel the luxury of the fabric, the fine tailoring, the care when I wear their clothes. Add some sexy heels from Pixieplumb Flanagan, who is making shoes like she’s on Imelda’s personal payroll with some great HUDS and color change built in and a limited design from Squinternet Larnia, and I am a perfect lady about town.

Black Roses

My sophisticated look comes from the work of Hart Larsson as well. With groomed brows, full and luscious lips and a bod to die for (though for once I am not showing it) This beautiful curly hair from Chiaki Xue is a darling look for the ensemble and my eyes from Ikon Innovia pop. Gosh I love what he’s been doing!

Black Roses

“There’s a bit of magic in everything, and some loss to even things out.” ~ Lou Reed

Hair: *Dura-Girl*46(Dark Brown) by Chiaki Xue for Dura *

Skin: [PXL] Sophia SK Raspberry Lips MEB C2 by Hart Larsson for [PXL] *

Eyes: IKON Lucid Eyes – Eucalyptus (ML) by Ikon Innovia for IKON *

Hands: Slink Mesh Hand Casual L and R by Siddean Munro for Slink

Dress: (Kunglers) Audrey dress B&W by Barbra Kungler for Kunglers *

Jewelry: (DF) PANDA necklace and earrings b/w by Squinternet Larnia for Donna Flora *

Shoes: BM Ultimate Shona All Colours by Pixieplumb Flanagan for Baby Monkey *

Poses by Rogan Diesel for DieselWorks Animations *

For Madison

For Madison

“Always how how short is too short—be it a dress, haircut, heels, or a man.”

For Madison

I was told that a sweet young lady in Hawaii likes seeing my blog and seeing what I have put together. With that in mind, I have decided to offer a little advice to my friend so far away. First, when someone compliments you, smile, accept it, and most importantly, believe it. Second, dress like a lady and people will treat you like one. That’s why I am showing this blouse from Hudsen Armidi (still available at the Warehouse as far as I know) with its beautifully detailed system textures. (Yes, system pieces STILL work if they are done well.) I pair it with this flirty dream of a French skirt from Kinu Mayako with its wide white belt, which is the epitome of style. With a clutch from Daphne Klossovsky at the recently remodeled HANDverk store and strappy sandals from Gospel Voom, I think I have assembled a pretty look for my friend, Madison.

For Madison

I may seem a bit overdressed but as the adage goes, Madison, you can never be overdressed or overeducated (and in this instance I am both). Of course, the conversation piece of my look is this hat from Amberly Boccaccio that is being offered at Collabor88. I chose the white one because, blessedly, Amberly left the hat modifiable so I could change the rose to a color I liked. My lovely skin from Tricky Boucher provides a neutral palette so the colors of this look can pop. And MissAllSunday Lemon is offering this hair with a couple others at Fantasy Faire, benefitting Relay for Life, and going on right now.

One last thing, Madison: Never downplay your intelligence. Dumb is not cute. Integrity, dignity and wisdom are the real indicators of beauty.

For Madison

“For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone.” ~ Audrey Hepburn

Hair: /Wasabi Pills/ Erika Mesh Hair – Gingerbread by MissAllSunday Lemon for Wasabi Pills*

Skin: -Belleza- Mya Med R 3 by Tricky Boucher for-Belleza- *

Eyes: IKON Ardent Eyes – Clarity (ML) by Ikon Innovia for IKON *

Hands: Slink Mesh Hand Casual L and R by Siddean Munro for Slink

Top: {Gisaci} Dans la Ville Blouse – White by Hudsen Armidi for Gisaci

Skirt: [ SAKIDE ] French Touch Skirt Wine/W by Kinu Mayako for [ SAKIDE ]

Hat: -Glam Affair- Giant Dish Hat White/White by Amberly Boccaccio for Glam Affair, available at Collabor88 *

Clutch: [HANDverk]Red Scale Clutch by Daphne Klossovsky for [HANDverk]

Shoes: [Gos] Marilyn Sandals – Classic Collection by Gospel Voom for Gos Boutique*

Poses by Rogan Diesel for DieselWorks Animations